How to Make Dental Visits Stress-Free for Kids (and Parents)

In this article, you will learn:

• How early dental visits help prevent fear and anxiety 

• Simple ways parents can prepare kids before an appointment

• How pediatric dental teams create positive, kid-friendly experiences

For many families, dental visits can bring a mix of nerves and uncertainty, especially when it’s a child’s first appointment or when a previous experience didn’t go as planned.

The good news? With the right preparation and support, dental visits can be calm, positive, and even fun.

Start Dental Visits Early

Introducing children to the dentist at an early age helps normalize dental care. The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends that a child visit the dentist by age 1 or within 6 months of the first tooth. Early visits are typically brief, gentle, and educational, helping children become familiar with the environment before any treatment is needed.

Keep the Conversation Positive

Children pick up on adult emotions quickly, and so using calm, encouraging language helps set the right tone for a dental visit. Avoid using words that may sound scary and let the dental team explain procedures in kid-friendly terms designed to build trust.

Triggering Words and Phrases to Avoid

• Drill

• Pull

• Hurt

• “This won’t hurt”

• “Don’t be scared”

• “It’ll be over soon”

• “Be brave”

• “This is worse for me”

• “I hated the dentist as a kid”

What to Say Instead

• “The dentist is going to count and clean your teeth.”

• “They’ll help keep your smile healthy.”

• “You’ll get to sit in a special chair.”

• “We’re going to see the dentist today.”

Read, Watch, and Practice at Home

Books and videos about visiting the dentist can help children understand what to expect. Books or videos can also be referenced during the child’s appointment by asking them questions like, “Do you remember what flavor Elmo picked for toothpaste? What flavor will you pick?” 

It’s also encouraged to practice counting teeth and brushing at home to make the experience feel familiar and less intimidating when you arrive at the dentist.

Schedule Smartly

Appointments are often easiest when children are well-rested and fed. Morning or early-day visits tend to work best for younger kids and help avoid fatigue or hunger that can increase anxiety. Older kids might prefer afternoons so they won’t miss school. Avoid rushing to or from a dental appointment, if possible. Rushing can add anxiety to the experience for you and your child.

Trust Your Pediatric Dental Team

Pediatric dentists are specially trained to work with children of all ages and comfort levels. They are trained in child development, behavior management, child psychology, and caring for children with special needs. Pediatric dentists take extra care to create a kid-friendly environment and want nothing more than to deliver positive dental experiences and teach good oral health habits that will last a lifetime.

If you have a question about something you’ve observed at home, or about a specific dental treatment, be sure to ask your pediatric dentist. For example, if your child uses a pacifier and you’re wondering the best way to wean them off it, a pediatric dentist can offer guidance.

Celebrate the Win

After the appointment, acknowledge your child’s effort to visit the dentist and keep their smile healthy. A high-five, kind words, or a small reward can reinforce positive feelings and make future visits even easier.

Dental visits don’t have to be stressful. With preparation, reassurance, and a supportive dental team, children can build confidence and healthy smiles that last a lifetime.